Personal growth begins with understanding the non-attachment principle.

We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned so as to accept the life that is waiting for us

Joseph Campbell

In all of us lie the answers to our own  personal and spiritual growth. We truly are our own best teachers  but first we need to master our first lesson, letting go of  all that no longer serves us.

This can be challenging in the extreme because we must first find and isolate the source of our real distress and that takes both time and courage. Addictions of any kind are merely coping strategies that help us deal with our deeper insecurities and feelings, some of which we maybe conscious of and some of which are unknown to us but which need to be discovered if we are to fulfill our potential.

Holding on is really nothing more than an excuse. It’s the fear of the unknown so we hold onto our past, or a relationship that has run its course or a job that we tolerate and all those bad habits that serve to keep us stuck, empty and depleted. We’ve become accustomed to acquiring stuff to make ourselves feel better and to doing stuff that give us standing, social respect and a feeling that we fit. Its a perpetual circle, the more empty we feel the more we rely on those addictions to make us feel better. The more out of control on the inside we feel the greater our desire to cling onto and control stuff and our relationships on the outside.

It’s impossible to breathe life into what is gone. We can only learn from our past mistakes and learn to navigate our life course in a different direction.

Happiness and joy is actually our natural state so if we’re not feeling that its an indication that we need to let go of something or someone. At the level of spirit we’re in a much better position to see whether our external reality is a false reality that we’ve created through years of indoctrinated conditioning and belief systems  we’ve inherited.

The irony is when we actually learn to let go , life gets a whole lot  simpler and more liberating in every sense. We ‘re now in a position to live with greater intention, purpose and appreciation because we’re free from struggle.

As we empty our cup it naturally fills back up and the more we’re aligned with our true natures the more it can overflow.

Acceptance changes everything. It’s the door to transition.

Letting go is really all about letting BE and this is the place of true transformation and personal growth because we begin to really understand tolerance, patience, kindness, empathy and open-mindedness. That’s a clarity that’s priceless.

We stop blaming and we work towards creating a better way for ourselves, families and the world at large.

It’s in this place  that we’re in the best possible position to lead others because we begin to really listen and seek to understand ,then empower.

Acceptance has nothing to do with weakness or that feeling of powerlessness against the injustices and cruelties of life. We now ask questions to understand why people do what they do before condoning their behaviour and in this place we’re in the best position to breakthrough our own bias and find lasting solutions.

Sometimes letting go is learning to wait and doing nothing. We don’t always have immediate answers to everything and often over-doing can just create unnecessary complications.

So how can we learn to let go?

1. Access your spirit.

If we can tap into our spirit then we’re well placed to make the leaps we desire and personal growth will happen. Working at the level of spirit we begin to ask more purposeful questions regarding who and what we want to become as well as the kind of legacy we want to leave behind. It naturally focuses our attention on serving others rather than being self absorbed with our own wants and needs. So start to ask yourself what you really want to do that would make a difference to others.

2. Tune into your feelings.

Recognise how you’re feeling moment to moment and ask yourself whether what you’re doing feels good.Forget how you’re supposed to feel and just tune into what is. Ask yourself whether what you do aids your well-being or not. Only you are in the position to know this because its more than moving towards pleasure and avoiding pain. After all, deciding to care for a dying partner is going to be painful but it can still aid our well being and our ability to grieve then heal what we’ve lost in the process. Eating chocolate all day ,whilst wonderful, will eventually lead to pain when we pile on the pounds and begin to self loathe.

3.Acknowledge the pain of letting go.

In our society it  has become accepted custom and practice to paint a smile on our face no matter what and to ignore and drown out what we feel. We numb ourselves in numerous ways, whether that’s the workaholic who will do anything to drown out that little voice inside or the addict who needs to get their next fix  just to get going in the morning or the control freak who hides their deep lonliness by telling others what to do . Recognising the underlying cause then grieving that loss is important. We might kid others for awhile but we never kid ourselves.

4. Take stock of what is holding you back.

At this stage we’re in more of a position to take some action and begin to identify what we can do to move us more to where we want to go and who can help and support us on the journey.That starts with being more of who we really are, in other words, accessing our unlimited power so we can dream and imagine a better way forward and align our thoughts and actions.

It makes perfect sense that the more comfortable we are being ourselves without walls the more attractive we become.

So what do you want to let go of  today?

Is it the need to control everything?

Is it the need to be right and to have the last word?

Is it the need to be perfect in all things?

Do yourself a favour, let go of all that baggage and your personal and spiritual growth will know no limits.

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