Making The Personal Development Leap From Control To Self Trust

Continuous Personal Development Is Really About Self Knowledge

shutterstock_129251732When you work for yourself you’re forced into examining all your demons, flaws and self doubts and keeping on the straight and narrow can be quite a balancing act as you will only grow your business as fast as you grow and evolve yourself.

Easier said then done at times.

Today’s personal development post focuses on the subject of trust, a fundamental requirement for individuals forging their own path in life and business owners and leaders who want to attract powerfully and bring their dreams into reality.

As a mainstream society I believe we’ve negated the value of our own intuitive wisdom .

This has put us at the mercy of trying to keep up with the myriad of new information, ideas and developments that keeps our external world ever constant in order to make the majority feel confident in their abilities to thrive and be competent players in this brave new world.

It’s a focus on doing rather than being and its slowly killing us.

Powerful conditioning from early childhood teaches us to defer our own power to these external authorities starting with our parents, then teachers, then so-called business experts and charismatic leaders, global politicians and professionals who do little more than follow their own limited way of thinking and behaving based on their own conditioned upbringing and projected ego’s born out of their own wounded selves.

Where does it leave us?

Most of our failing infrastructures of today  are symptomatic of a lack of self trust in the individuals who make up this world.

We all know that trust frequently fails  us when we’ve been betrayed, lied too perhaps, let down and hurt by false promises and this merely serves to set up a self- fulfilling mechanism for the future.

Continuous Personal Development Requires Absolute Self Trust

self trust, continuous personal development,personal development But trust we must , here’s why;

From a spiritual perspective a lack of trust is really all about resistance. Our resistance to listen to our empowering unlimited self as opposed to our small, fearful inner critic who wants superiority, recognition,glory and ultimate control. It tricks us into believing we need to have certainties and answers, to look the part and say and do the right thing at all costs.

If we’d followed our heart rather than letting our inflated ego run the show then we would have no reason to feel let down.

When we start interfering with the universal agenda as some kind of power trip because our ego’s gone on auto-pilot we don’t get what we want we get what we ultimately resist.

Think about it, when you go into a restaurant and order your meal you don’t go off to the kitchen and start cooking the food for yourself so why should you send out your desires to the universe then get yourself overly immersed in the grand plan.

In many regards this type of teaching is uncommon sense, after all, as business owners and leaders we’ve been taught to take the action but what if you could trust yourself enough to act only when the impulse is strong and the signs suggest doing so as opposed to controlling everything that you do?

Its not until self trust replaces control that we can truly begin to acknowledge that ancient internal force within us and we start to listen to our own truth and that of others far more effectively. We start to see through the smoke screen of bravado, the  false behaviours of others as they project their neediness outwards.

We understand people better because we understand ourselves.

Learning self trust is one of the most significant personal development steps along with the ability to self accept one self unconditionally. It puts us in that place of ultimate freedom, self reliance, authenticity but above all peace.

Learning to make the shift from control to trust is where the magic happens as we move onto the path of meaning as opposed to the path of ambition.

We stop worrying about the” how” and getting caught up in the drama of life because we suddenly trust the bigger picture  that’s emerging and know that our soul is in charge and the “allowing” begins to open up. We start to get the results we want.

Techniques to develop healthy self trust;

Practice grounding techniques-Pay attention to what’s going on in every present moment, breathe well and deeply and focus your attention around your heart centre. Get out in nature, eat raw foods and switch off the technology for a while.

Notice your judgements-are you your own worst critic?

Our judgements shine a light on what we choose to avoid and consciously recognise within ourselves and we will  always attract what we most judge about ourselves so if you’re not feeling good enough or not deserving enough then that is effectively what you will be experiencing in your reality reflection in your business dealings and your relationships at large.

Focus on what brings you joy-The more we can focus on what we enjoy in our work and let go of aspects that frustrate the better able we are to attract success.

Stephen Covey’s book, The Speed of Trust outlines 5 levels of trust that get to the heart of what this post is referring to.

They are;

  1. Self trust-When we start with this we become the kind of person others can trust.
  2. Relationship trust-We then reflect and share our own healthy self trust directly with others to build trust with them and develop harmonious and collaborative working.
  3. Organisational trust-now we begin to build a culture of trust.
  4. Market Trust-a culture of trust fosters trust externally with  all stakeholders.
  5. Societal trust-market trust engenders a spirit of societal trust as we all play our part in keeping the balance.

So if there is one learn that you can take away from this post it is that  all the answers you are looking for with regard to your life and perhaps your business dilemma lie within you.

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